In today’s modern and busy world , a wedding is a fairy tale moment that many long for. Once you’ve met the man or woman of your dreams, you may find yourself daydreaming about taking the leap and finally tying the knot.
While you may be ready for your partner to kneel down on one knee and put a giant rock on your finger, your significant other may not seem close to making the grand gesture. You may be asking yourself “Why haven’t they proposed yet, is it fear? Do they not have strong feelings for me”? Let’s not get ahead of ourselves here and overcomplicate things.
Maybe you haven’t considered that your partner can just as easily be afraid of rejection. There are subtle and loving ways to assure your other half that you are ready to take the next big step together. Here are some tricks that can help lead you towards walking down the aisle.
1. Be real and honest
Nothing works better than having an honest conversation with your partner. If you can’t bluntly say, “I’m ready to get married”, let them know how much you love them and how you would like to spend every day of your life traveling, laughing and enjoying life side by side.
You can also mention details of a wedding you have recently been to and share your thoughts and views on marriage. Your significant other will then know that you are not opposed to the idea of marriage, and in fact expect it.
2. Talk about the future
Discuss your plans for the future and let your partner know how you feel about family and having children. Openly expressing your dreams and desires will give you a better idea if the two of you are on the same page.
3. Take a look at some bridal pages on social media
After creating a mood board for all things engagement or bridal related, leave some open tabs open. Your significant other may notice and get some hints as to what your expectations are from them.
For example, you can follow instagram pages such as Nature Sparkle and save your favorite diamond engagement rings. You can also create a mood board on pinterest that may include wedding decor, flower arrangements, and engagement rings.
4. Talk about engagement rings
Gradually, you can drop hints by discussing diamond rings you’ve got your eye on. You can mention an engagement ring that you particularly love and then specify the details you love in the ring. For example, if your dream is having a 2 carat oval diamond engagement ring – don’t be shy, say it out load!(with grace of course).
It is also important to mention what you don’t like in a diamond. That way, you can point them in the right direction for when the time comes to start shopping for your dream engagement ring.
5. Schedule meetings with married couples
Sometimes memories of divorce between parents can leave a negative impact on children’s minds. The experience can be so intense that it leads to a sort of “marriage phobia”.
In such cases, take your partner for a date with a married couple or for social gatherings with married couples who live together happily. Being exposed to examples of healthy and happy marriages may help minimize the inherent fear. It may even lead to your partner wanting to reinvent the story and build a future with you.
Contrarily, if your S.O is truly scarred by a traumatic experience, you may want to suggest therapy.
6. Ask a friend to help
You can ask a trusted mutual friend to bring up the topic of marriage. They can be forward and say things such as “You both are such a great fit for one another, you should get married soon”. Comments such as these can be very helpful and nice to hear. They will get your partner thinking positively about the idea of marriage.
7. Going to a wedding together
It’s a well-known fact that weddings make most people feel sappy and emotional. It is almost impossible to think of a person who does not want to get married or even contemplate their own wedding when the pianist starts playing the music and the bride and groom exchange their vows. Being dressed up and immersed in such a romantic atmosphere will make you both want to marry each other on the next available date.
All in all, these methods will help you hint at the idea of marriage, giving you and your partner a greater understanding of where you both stand. Just be sure you don’t put too much pressure on your other half. Be patient and enjoy the various stages in your relationship. Eventually, your partner will express their desire to marry you.